A long time ago I got over saving things for “special occasions.” I use the old linen dish towels and crocheted tablecloths from my Gram. I wear my Grandpa’s wedding ring in the summer when my hands swell up and my wedding ring is too uncomfortable to wear. I wear some of my mom’s necklaces and bracelets that I grew up watching her wear. They really don’t get appreciated when they are kept in a drawer or a jewelry box. I use Gram’s antique blue and white bowls to put fruit in. I also use her beautifully embroidered pillow cases.
It took me a while (years in fact) to come to this realization. I figure I might as well use these things, or at least display them. What good are they if they are kept in boxes, never to be seen or used. What good is it to keep the linen packed away only to take it out once a year to wash and iron it and put it back in a drawer just to “save” it for another generation.
I am definitely emotional attached to “things” and that can get in the way sometimes. I call our house “lived in”, while someone else would call it “cluttered.” Some of the antiques that I am emotionally attached may not be of great monetary value (and others are.) I remember growing up with them, having them around, and now want them around me in my home.
Over the past five years my mom and I have been going through boxes and boxes of things that have been collected and passed down. I really wanted to go through the things while my mom is still healthy and able to do it with me and also so I could learn about the items and glean a bit of history about where they came from and who had them. The main purpose was to work towards having a Pre-Estate Sale (I guess it can also be called a Living State sale) and downsizing pre-death in this case. The market is not what it once was for selling antiques and collectibles, so for now we have gone through most of the things and separated them into three sections: Pre-Estate Sale, Emily’s things, and Keep (for mom to continue to enjoy).